Family or work?
“For a woman, a feeling of fullness and security is extremely important. It is necessary that in her life there should be a balanced presence of family and work, relations with the opposite sex and private space. At the same time, work should be not only a means of earning money, but also a creative “nourishment” for other areas of life. That is why a woman should work less time than a man. Situations when she lingers at work or works for 12-14 hours create a stressful environment, which, in turn, affects the general condition. Bottom line: irritation, panic, aggression.
Secondly, in addition to the time spent at work, a woman needs to take into account her interest in work: ideally, to do what she loves. Then the work will “charge”, bringing fresh strength and creative energy. Thirdly, it is desirable for a woman to evenly distribute the workload so that at home, in the family, she does not feel tired and exhausted. And while in the office (at the enterprise, in the company) take breaks and change the type of activity.
If a woman decides to combine motherhood with a career, it is advisable to discuss this with family members, so that relatives do not feel deprived of warmth and care, and, as a result, such dissatisfaction can lead to frequent family conflicts. If a girl did not work for some time (for a number of reasons), and then decided to resume her career (or suddenly plunged headlong into the affairs and concerns of the company), perhaps she should honestly answer the question: “Is work a way to leave from problems in personal relationships? ” Sometimes a woman plunges into work and climbs the career ladder, wanting to disguise failures in personal relationships and family problems ... "
What a wise thought!
“A career is a wonderful thing, but it cannot warm anyone on a cold night.”
"Previously, a man was wondering if he could afford to marry, now he is wondering if he can live without a working wife."
“Every woman should be able to do four things: look like a girl, act like a lady, think like a man, and work like a horse.”
“The qualities that a future employer is looking for in a woman are essentially the same qualities that are required in family life ...”
Women's field of activity
84% of women are among workers in the healthcare and social services sectors;
79% - in education;
64% - in communications, wholesale and retail trade.
In total, the share of women in the total number of employees is 56%.
/ According to the Federal State Statistics Service /
In a study of the National Union of Personnel Officers, three groups of the least desirable employees were identified:
- Childless women in the first two years after marriage; single mothers; divorced women with two or more children.
- In 84% of cases, candidates from the above categories will be refused under a plausible pretext.
- 9% of HR managers are ready to consider applicants from this list only if their experience and level of knowledge is an order of magnitude higher than that of other candidates.
- And only 7% of recruiters do not care about the marital status of the applicant.
66 million Russian men account for more than 76 million women.
70% of Russian officials are women.
2/3 of vacancies of financial institutions (banks, insurance and investment companies
) are representatives of the beautiful half.
Other “female” industries include education, healthcare and social services, hotels and restaurants, and trade.
Studies have shown that, unlike the prevailing stereotype that single women are successful in business, business women (76.6%) rather than managers (56.6%) and workers (60%) are married more often. The average age of a female leader is 32 years old and she is married.
Maternity leave in different countries
• When to give birth?
According to the US Census Bureau, if in 1970 only one out of a hundred women gave birth for the first time after 34 years, then in 2006 - already every 12th. In Russia, the average age of women who gave birth to their firstborn is 26 years old (data for 2006). These are the results of a study conducted by the Social Insurance Fund (FSS) of the Russian Federation.
• Where is it better to give birth?
A few years ago, Gray Bowker, a specialist in the law on employment from the consulting company Mercer Human Resources, conducted an international study whose purpose was to determine the duration and payment of maternity leave in 60 countries in Europe, Australia, North and South America. It turned out that from an economic point of view, the country most beneficial for motherhood is Sweden, where a young mother is entitled to 96 weeks of maternity leave, of which approximately 80% of her salary is paid to her for about a year. In Europe, motherhood is more "paid" in Norway, Denmark and Italy; least of all - in Greece, Luxembourg and Great Britain. The laws of Australia and the United States of America do not provide for paid maternity leave at all. The shortest decree is for women in Singapore and Taiwan (a total of 8 paid weeks).
How are roles distributed in the family?
The topic, of course, is controversial, and discussions do not stop, but it is believed that ...
- the smaller the wage gap between husbands and wives, the more evenly the homework is distributed between spouses;
- the higher the education level of husbands, the more they participate in household chores;
- the higher the prestige of the husbands profession, the less they do housework;
- the more egalitarian views (“for” equality) husbands hold, the more evenly distributed domestic work;
- the prestige of the professional occupation of women does not have a pronounced connection with the time costs of life;
- wives with democratic ideas devote less time to housekeeping.
"Women's Business Center" - the state budgetary institution of the city of Moscow:
- It implements programs designed to help and support unemployed women;
- Informs about opportunities and vacancies;
- Assists in finding employment;
- Involves co-employers providing home-based workplaces (“Home Work Exchange”);
- Conducts trainings and seminars;
- Provides practical assistance in planning and starting your own business;
- Supports financially business projects (on a competitive basis).
In the zone of special attention of the "Center" - women raising minor children and children with disabilities, having a long break in work. And also those employed in harmful and dangerous working conditions, of pre-retirement age. The activities of the "Center" gave impetus to the creation of such women's organizations in many republics, territories and regions of Russia. www.wbcenter.ru
A few simple rules, observing which, you can combine career and family life. Psychologist Natalia Bogerchuk advises:
It is necessary to make strong-willed efforts in order to spend an equal amount of time both on work and on family. Otherwise there will always be a certain degree of stress. And only awareness will help reduce irritation and stress.
For a woman who is engaged in a career, home rituals are important, they must be observed. For example, a joint breakfast / dinner, a weekly family outing, or you can just meet each other after work and go for a walk in the park.
To control your behavior and, when you come home, try to be a wife, mother, and not a boss or director. Do not command, but show more tenderness, avoid the tone of command. However, it’s also not worthwhile to “tear off masks” and show yourself sluggish, tired, tormented by office affairs.
At work during the day, it is important to remember that you are still a wife and mother, and allow yourself a short time (2-3 minutes) to stay in this role: call your relatives or send them a good message.
While you are at home
Make money without leaving your apartment:
• If you know a foreign language, offer the services of an interpreter (instructions, technical documentation, scientific articles).
• Russian language or geometry - your strengths? Pull the students' knowledge before the tests.
• Often, different companies require “people on the phone”: sales managers, consultants, operators and administrators.
• And there are a lot of offers on the Internet, for example: assembling simple products, planting plants (for seeds) or packaging advertising products (catalogs) in envelopes.
Stars also choose
Popular and famous women also have to decide: family or career? The choice of each is individual. And always!
Family comes first
The writer Joan Rowling, today the mother of two children, the best-selling author of Harry Potter, has experienced more than one career failure (she was fired more than once), divorce, has long been a single mom and lived on meager state benefits, but despite all the everyday difficulties, she believed in her dream and continued to write - in the evenings, between part-time jobs. For your sake, for the sake of children. She typed the manuscript of the first novel on an old typewriter, bought at a sale ... Today, novels about the young wizard are translated into more than 60 languages, more than 450 million books have been sold worldwide.
Work comes first
“Work makes a woman more beautiful,” the words of Elena Rubinstein. For her, business has always been in the first place. She was married more than once, she had two sons, but with an all-consuming passion she belonged only to her beauty empire. It was Rubinstein, the first in the world, who began to divide the skin into three types. She came up with the “Palaces of Cosmetics”, striking in scope and luxury, where each visitor relied on a personal examination, procedures and relaxation ... The result of the efforts made - Helena Rubinstein cosmetics are sold worldwide today.
50 to 50 - balance search
Singer, songwriter, producer, choreographer, actress, director, screenwriter, fashion designer ... - you can continue for a long time, and everything will be true. For a long time, the Madonna devoted herself only to work, only to music. She knew the joy of motherhood at 38, then the daughter of Lourdes was born. At 42 - gave birth to a son from Guy Ritchie. After another six years, she adopted a boy from the African state of Malawi and later more than once declared her desire to take more children into the family. Today, the singer is trying to pay maximum attention to the family, and also collects donations for orphans.